MrBond - Good point. I will tell her when I get home tonight.
There's one other problem though...she may ask for access to my credit card accounts. I purchased my DB coaching sessions through my credit card. She's going to see that and ask. Ugh!
That's ^^NOT a problem. It's not even in the same GALAXY as the OW behaviors. Not even close. It's much more like the total opposite...
AND IF IF she discovers the DB coaching--and do NOT mention it to her--
but if she learns that you are paying someone to help you become a better husband to her,
(Not that you are trying to manipulate her get her back or control her, but how you can be better for/to her...
I'd bet my pinky finger she won't get "mad" at you. Note that she cannot see it as something you're doing to get her back, to control or manipulate her, but b/c you want to know HOW to be a better husband.
There is a huge HUGE difference between "My control lessons" and "studies on how to be a loving husband", which has to be your focus.
At worst, she'll scoff b/c of her doubts and how long it took or all the times before when you claimed to be working on the m (& she may well believe it's too late) but all things considered, you can handle that.
Mindsin, don't look for reasons to keep doing the same old thing, but somehow hope for a new result.
Remember, ^^that's an example of "true insanity". (= doing the same behavior repeatedly ----but expecting a different result).
FWIW, here's something I saw about men that seemed "instructive" for a lot of people.
Make of it what you will. (I am not sure of the author) "Here’s to all the REAL MEN out there. Boys play house, Men build homes. Boys shack up, Men get married. Boys make babies, Men raise children. A boy won’t raise his own children, A man will raise someone else’s. Boys invent excuses for failure, Men produce strategies for success. Boys look for somebody to take care of them, Men look for someone to take care of. Boys seek popularity, Men demand respect and know how to give it.
Food for thought.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
