pilot and oad, it makes me feel so much better to read these lasts few posts of yours. It seems we are going through a similar time of questioning.
My H is a new person too right now, and most of his changes are not for the better. (and like your wife oad, he is becoming like people he used to dislike)
I too am questioning whether it is worth it to try to earn back the love of someone I wouldn't date if I just met him. And yet here we are still persisting for now.
Good luck guys, Lisa B
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.