Heather,
I'm sorry you had a bad day. That is so frustrating waiting for that call. I was laid off a couple years ago and didn't get one call for 6 months. I finally got called back to my original position after countless hours applying for a job. It is stressful and makes you feel terrible. I'm sorry. The right opportunity is just waiting for you! Something will happen at just the right time (I know, can't it be now?!)

I don't see why it would hurt to reach out to the NY position. Why not? I don't see how it could hurt you. You only have something to gain by trying, right? I will keep my fingers crossed and send a prayer to a higher power.... keep us posted!