I really listened to what you said and decided to take the first step to opening the lines of communication.
My wife is going on a business trip and I was supposed to watch the dog while she was gone. But she hasn’t contacted me since I told her I filed for legal separation. After reading your posts I sent her this text at 8:30 this morning:
Me: I am scheduled to look after the dog this week. I have it starting on my calendar tomorrow through Thursday. I will come over and feed him and play with him. If you would like me to do anything else around the house just let me know.
Wife (at 9:30): Thank you for the offer but it will not be necessary. My travel plans changed. I am leaving Wednesday returning Friday. He will be fine. I have someone else looking after him.
Me (immediate response): I really have no problem in looking after him on Wed and Thursday. Just let me know.
She didn’t respond to my text. I am so hurt by her reply. I hoped this would open the lines of communication. But I also really wanted to see the dog and spend time at my home.
I dropped the separation papers off at the house with a note that said I would do all the legal work for her so she wouldn’t have to be bothered with any of this. I said I would do all the documents and email them to her. Once she agreed with the documents she could sign them and I would file everything in court.
I ended the note with, “As always if you need anything done around the house, with the yard or the dog just let me know. I can always help. I will continue to put my money in the checking account until things are completed.”
I still haven’t heard anything from her. This isn't like her at all. She always expresses herself.
One of the things I distinctly remember her saying is, "Bob your weapon of choice is silence. That has never been mine."
How do I communicate with someone who won't talk back?
