I see what you're saying. I respect you for being willing to lay down some boundaries, because I know that I have at times felt like it's not worth rocking the boat, even if it means putting myself last.
With that said, I visit your thread every day because I feel like your situation IS moving forward. You might not see it, because you're in it, but from an outsider's perspective, there is real progress here. I enjoy your thread because it shows that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And I guess I would just say that if you have an interaction with your H that leaves you feeling positive (i.e. like you did today, after your conversation), I would take that and run with it for a while before I threw any new information into the mix.
Also, in regard to what claire7 said, I agree about face value. If he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, maybe that's what he means.. and that he won't be dating other women, etc?
