I'm sorry, but this is what I -- and others -- have been warning you about for 3 1/2 years.
Originally Posted By: Starsky309, April 2011
Abbey,
I'm sorry you are in such pain, but I'm not really sure how we can best help you. You know exactly what's going on -- your husband is playing you -- and yet you continue in the same endless loop of deceit and frustration and disrespect.
We like to think that we are complicated beings, but us humans really ARE path-of-least-resistance creatures. Your husband is doing what he is doing because he is weak, it feels good to him, and BECAUSE HE CAN. Until you muster up the will and the skill to remove yourself as his backup plan, you're destined for months and even years of this same heartbreak and deceit.
Is this really what you want?
Starsky
You chose to stick your head in the sand, others offered the usual (((hugs))) and even advised you -- alarmingly -- "what you don't know won't hurt you." (And yes, that's an exact quote)
It is precisely this kind of pain and LOST PRECIOUS TIME that I try to warm people about the horrible damage of affairs.
I hope you at least have clarity now, and can summon your inner "Mamabear" and do what needs to be done to protect yourself and your family.
