Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[Zues126]

Ha tex. we have the same sense of humor, see my last thread post.

Anyway, yeah, I think detachment makes it EASIER to be a good H. Like when your attached your constantly aware and preoccupied with her REACTION and how it will make YOU feel. When you're detached you can focus on HER.

I'm having little breakthroughs about this. By being ok on my own I'm better able to be civil and treat her with consideration. I feel like we were drowning in the ocean. I can't pull her out if I'm still drowning. All I can do is keep her down. But once I'm out I can compassionately hold out my hand. And if she rejects it I won't feel shunned, just sad for the pain shell feel by staying in a negative state of mind. Of course, even then I'll pray she gets the next boat