Yeah I can see the logic in that ... I do not see my sitch turning around for some time, I have made alot of progress on me, this place in a way validated the core things I felt, but has alos through the pain and suffering of so many has also shown me the do's and dont's that I was so guilty of earlier. All I can do is change me, if she reconsiders so be it .. if not I will hope to be a better person for it