I sent this follow up email today. Hope it doesn't earn me any 2x4s.
Can we clear the air on a few things?
1. I've been really anxious about finances. Are you fine with continuing the status quo on things like finances, our legal status, etc., for the foreseeable future? Establishing a legal separation will require refinancing or selling the house and I would prefer to not put myself or the kids through that any time soon if you don't object.
2. The washer is leaking from the bottom. I would really like to buy a new set that can handle the laundry load our household generates. I don't feel comfortable making a purchase of this size without your buy-in. I don't need anything else from you but that and the money to do it.
3. On the paperwork for the start of the new school year I'm going to add your apartment address. Because we are still legally married any time I need to list an emergency contact for myself it's going to be you. Let me know if that's a problem.
4. I recognize that you don't have romantic feelings for me at this time. However, I feel very strongly that your dating other women while we are still married would be extremely disrespectful to me, our marriage, and our kids. I will absolutely not be ok with that at all. I do not intend to date while we are still legally married for the same reason. I would hope that you would not engage in behavior that you would be ashamed of if the kids learned about it in adulthood. I hope you are still that high quality person.
Thank you. I appreciated our conversation this afternoon. I feel like I understand you better and that helps a lot.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
