Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[25yearsmlc]

I think i wanted to do that just as a way to poke at her and get some type of read on the R, her plans, etc.

We call it temperature checking (as in checking where she is emotionally in the R at that moment). Not a good thing.

SO not a good thing. I read somewhere that "nothing cools the temperature of a M more than constantly taking its' temperature."

Plus, it's another way of showing how UNdetached you are, b/c you did something to get a reaction from her (or to get info).

That's a form of manipulation and attempted control, if you think about it.

I'm not saying I never did it. Half the reason we're here is to help you avoid our mistakes. And I did learn to stop. I hope you will too.

Food for thought.