I can relate to how you are feeling. I remember feeling quite exhausted and disgusted at the year mark. I needed something to change or I thought I would go crazy.
I don't know if it's so much an " I don't care feeling" as it is an awakening to the fact that you don't NEED your spouse. Knowing that you can take care of yourself and your children, that things may be hard if your spouse was out of the picture, but that you could do it.
It's a good place to get to.
I think just like our MLC counterparts, we cycle too. Our feelings change, we grow. A lot of different emotions come up on this journey, often surprising us at their arrival.
I do believe the MLCer is always watching us, especially if they are still living with us. But - I'm not sure that any one thing we do or not do pushes them forward or keeps them stuck.
They have to be ready to move forward, get there on their own. And it may very well be teeny tiny baby steps...
I think it's very good that you are still friends and are co-parenting.
Believe me, I KNOW how hard it is being the "friends only" routine. But look at it this way... He needs a friend right now way more than he needs a wife. He can't handle marriage right now. He can't handle a lot of things right now.
Hang in there, you will figure out what you want. No hurry, right? If you are really done with your h and m, that feeling won't go away. But if you have some doubts, listen to that little voice inside of you.
Trust in yourself
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
