Thanks for your input. I clearly am conflicted here, but I believe God would say to forgive my W and be pleasant, be nice and be civil until I cannot do it anymore. If I reach that point, then I need to move on. I am not there yet. Yes, I hurt inside and yes I yearn for my family to be back together. This is her journey and I am going to let her take it. I will run along side the journey until I reach my limit.
Given she has not admitted to the A, I just need to detach and GAL.
Oh, don't get me wrong, Sho -- I agree with *all* of that. I just am encouraging you to have healthy limits. Healthy for you, healthy for your kids . . . and not let "I don't want to make her mad" be your overarching driver.
Your wife actually sounds a lot like mine. Mine too had a mini-MLC, I think, in looking back on it. She had gone from living with her parents to marrying and living with me, and then we raised 4 kids together. I don't think she ever found out who (my wife's first name) is.
