They will test you many times, sometimes in a subtle way. It is to see if: 1) you are still there for them and reacting to whatever they say or do; and 2) to see if your changes are genuine/real/permanent. This will continue for many months until they have completed their journey and have settled into their own skin again. That's why we say repeatedly on here that if you are making changes, make them for you, be happy w/your changes and above all else, make them a permanent part of your new life. You do not need to reassure him that the changes you've made are real/permanent...actions speak louder than words.
He is working on himself within. You can't see the work being done because there are not cuts or bruises on the outside, but the work is being done internally. I'm sure you are anxious for his crisis to be over and done with, but you have quite a ways to go yet. Patience! Dig very deep for patience because this is the hardest part of the journey for you. You are watching his every move, analyzing those movements and yes his words as well. Step back, give him as much space and time as you can. As long as you can listen, validate and be a friend to him at this time, he will continue to communicate w/you.
Turn the focus off your h and back on to you and your family. The healing process is taking place internally and until he's ready to move forward a bit more, you will not see a lot of change. It takes a lot of time for him to back up. Remember the old saying? "A watched pot never boils." This is very true w/the MLCer as well.
Step back, live your life to the fullest and allow him to come to you when he's ready to talk some more.
