EMAIL SENT: Ordered. Thank you for the link. Though it won't be the original the difficulty you endured and the support she showed deserves to be remembered. Well done^^ and a lot better than I could have done it, at your stage of the game..
That was my email. Seems simple enough, thanks for the support Cali. It's tough, I DID feel she let me have it both by dismissing and minimizing what I did for the birthday (saying she didn't need it and the homemade stuff they did without me was really special) and laying into me about the accident. Do you think she'd treat a neighbor that way? I didn't see her comments about the kids gifts the same way as you are now. I think she is trying to make the point that SHE does love their home made gifts and does not want THEM thinking they have to buy gifts, but she also thanked you for them. At least that's what I think she meant.
However, she should have been grateful for you at least taking the trash out. I can't assess the value of the particular mug but it IS a "thing", not a person..sheesh.
Point isn't I think she's out of line. Just that I'm noticing a dynamic we've had of her criticizing me pointedly and me defending. My "doing something different" will be to not defend. I don't want to play that game anymore. She can attack me forever if she wants but I'm not going to let it cut me to ribbons like I've done in the past.
I'll look at the pain I've caused her to drive her to that tone and change me and my behavior, but not going to be verbally beaten either.
2 notes.
First, I LOVE that you see this^^ as a chance for a 180, which it absolutely IS.
Second, you're showing EMPATHY for her viewpoint, even though she was a bit of a hard a$$.
Good for you.
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