"We went to one session of C after the 3rd time she caught me. It was mildly productive. I remember being very defensive, very self-righteous, and not truly making an effort to understand her feelings. (Kind of like now, unfortunately)"
THIRD time she caught you?! You seem to have left out alot in your situation. How can you not see her reasons for not trusting you?
By the time she told you ... ""I only trust you as the father to my children, and that's all I need from you at this point. I hope you never prove me wrong in that area." you were dead to her. She removed all trust she had in you and just cared about your interactions with your children.
If you want to re-establish that trust, one BIG thing you can do is to apologize for your communicating with other women and recognize that it was a violation of her trust and tell her that you would like her to trust you again and that you leave it up to her to do so. And to show your willingness, tell her that you will give her full access to your emails and cell phone. That she can check them at any time and you will respect her decision to do so.
That would be a start.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
