1st post. Long but please read, help!

[Zues126]

EMAIL SENT: Ordered. Thank you for the link. Though it won't be the original the difficulty you endured and the support she showed deserves to be remembered.


That was my email. Seems simple enough, thanks for the support Cali. It's tough, I DID feel she let me have it both by dismissing and minimizing what I did for the birthday (saying she didn't need it and the homemade stuff they did without me was really special) and laying into me about the accident. Do you think she'd treat a neighbor that way?

Point isn't I think she's out of line. Just that I'm noticing a dynamic we've had of her criticizing me pointedly and me defending. My "doing something different" will be to not defend. I don't want to play that game anymore. She can attack me forever if she wants but I'm not going to let it cut me to ribbons like I've done in the past. I'll look at the pain I've caused her to drive her to that tone and change me and my behavior, but not going to be verbally beaten either.