IC wants me to date. He says I need to see how great a different kind of partner can be. He said listening to the backs and forths with H is like watching a rom-com -- i back off, he moves forward just enough to make me respond, and then withdraws.
I can't date (and told him so). That would just muck things up enormously. Do one thing, finish it, and move on. And I'm not finished here. But I can stick firmly to my boundary. He knows why that is so all I have to do is live with it as I stated it.
I actually DON'T want to go to dinner with him & the kids Wednesday, regardless of whether or not the invitation is genuine. I know how that dinner will go, and then I'll feel down after, and I'm not interested in continuing that pattern. Going will be more of the same, whether or not I go with expectations.
But I can get a job, that's the current GAL priority. Get H out of my head a little bit. That would make a HUGE difference in our dynamic.
Asking him what the message was in that video link he sent me (rather than deconstructing it and submitting it to committee) was a 180 too.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
He says I need to see how great a different kind of partner can be. He said listening to the backs and forths with H is like watching a rom-com -- i back off, he moves forward just enough to make me respond, and then withdraws. 