1 step forward 1000 steps back - part 4

[mdu]

H stopped by yesterday to help me with the ladder so I could properly clean one of our picture windows. He ended up cleaning it for me because it was a bit more challenging that I expected. He was on his way to the beach with the kids (we used to go every Sunday with his extended family). On his way out he said 'well, we'll be at the beach if you're interested in coming' I just smiled and went back inside. I didn't go.

I don't know if this is DBing or not but right now I really don't feel like hanging out with him until he's ready to put more into this. I'm just tired.

Last night stepdaughter had several friends over the house. They were in / out of the house at all hours. I suspect drinking (maybe smoking). So not ok. I didn't intervene in the moment, maybe I should have, but I was concerned if folks were high that it would be ineffective and someone might try to drive away. I need to talk to her about it later today and let her know it was not ok. I think I'm in a bit of a mood over that as well. I feel like I'm stuck holding the bag --- dealing with the house on my own, dealing with the neighborhood (kids constantly coming around asking for S & D, feeling badly that they're often not here), and now dealing with stepdaughter's shenanigans. It's just getting ridiculous and I feel like H is not at all suffering the consequences of his choices, but I sure am.