Not sure what to do

[MrBond]

"I wanted to revisit saying something nice about my wife. I think my last post made it sound like I resent saying something nice about her."

Probably because you made sarcastic comments like ... "Is that enough nice things about my wife?"

It's VERY obvious that you and her don't communicate very well and when you don't seem to understand what the other is saying, YOU run away and complain and SHE yells and thinks that by talking louder, it will make you understand better.

Case in point, your post above about the house.

"Last January my wife and I got into a huge fight. She told me to leave so I moved out..again. She asked me to come home and I did. She explained how much it hurt that I kept refusing to recommit to the marriage.

I felt guilty so I quick claimed the house to her and gave her all the money in our joint savings account."

Unless you left something out, she never said that she wanted your house and assets. She said you "kept refusing to recommit to the marriage". To you, recommitment meant MONEY. To her it means something more on the emotional level.

But you can't seem to understand that. You think she wanted "physical" acts where instead she wanted you to "show" her that you were the man she wanted. But instead of catching the hint, you took it as her being "abusive" when in fact, she is actually telling you what she would like you to change and be a better H to her.

If you didn't keep shutting down, things would get better. If you haven't already, maybe the next time she talks to you about something, stop what you're doing, look her in the eye and listen. Really give her your undivided attention. Then when she's done talking, validate her and respond with something like ... "okay, if I understand correctly, you're saying..." and repeat what she just told you.

It seems fairly evident that your W doesn't want to be proven right or wrong. She just wants to be HEARD. Try it out. It may not take on the first, second, fifth attempts. But it will. You just need to be PATIENT and LEARN.

Are you willing to do that?