"All the while the simple facts and reality that the men who usually have the most succes getting the woman to come back are the ones who let them go the fastest and leave the woman alone the quickest. The men who go out and start getting a life, having fun, mingling and flirting with the opposite sex and living and loving life to the fullest. They stop whining, stop complaining, stop venting, stop journaling and START DOING.. "
September will be the one year anniversary for me from BD; WAW still lives in apartment with S7 and I, and in that year has started and finished two affairs and is involved in third at present. I have made many mistakes along the way; the biggest being too needy and trying to hold on which makes her pull away harder. The original author of this thread does not live with his WAW and seems to see the best results when he goes the darkest and GAL.
Is my living arrangement hurting my efforts; making it almost impossible to go dark? Is there anyone here who has had good luck encouraging their WAW to end the relationship and get out on their own so they are able to more effectively do the 180 activities and go dark? I am thinking that the limbo that I am in is being caused by this; that more of the same is not fixing the problem.
Sometimes it is easier to get clarity on what needs to be done when we look at what others have done to resolve their problems.
Me37, W30, S7 Married 10yrs 05/11/04 ILYBINILWY 22/09/13 Disc. OM1 26/09/13 Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14 Affair Confession 21/06/14
W and I share same apartment (for a few more days). W isn't pushing for D.
