But you are confusing people with your spin (and maybe a desperate need to be declared the "victor" here, but I am not in a contest with you)
Originally Posted By: mindsin
Originally Posted By: MrBond
No you are misinterpreting. Just because the section follows another, doesn't mean that you follow those steps in that particular order. 25 has been here awhile and you seem to enjoy thinking YOUR interpretation is correct.
From page 215 in DR...
"In Chapter 6, I wrote about the last-resort technique. Re-read that section (page 124), because everything I wrote there applies here as well."
I'd like to know your interpretation of that ^. Mindsink, I actually went back and read it again and I stand by my take on it.
Look at the quote right there^^. "...everything I wrote there applies here as well..." and "there" means the earlier pages, and in those pages she says you must
exhaust the other approaches FIRST --BEFORE you go to LRT...even if there is an A, and even if the spouse does not want to end it.
That is why the LRT stands for "LAST resort" not "first resort", or 3rd or "approach when you feel frustrated..."resort
She also says NOT to mention the OM at all. Stop thinking/talking or referring to him. Period. (Including in the pages you cite above, she says Not to do that).
So there should be no confusion remaining in you about mentioning him or discussing him with anyone again....don't.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Just those last two sentences show how little you've learned and how much your ego is very much there. "I" just want do do what works" ... how selfish is that? You are still trying to figure out how to manipulate your W into loving you. You still haven't addressed HER hurt despite everything you say.
I'm selfish because I want to follow a system that will improve my mental state and self-esteem, and also potentially get my wife back and keep my family intact?! You lost me there.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
5 days? That's laughable. No habit that you've accumulated over a lifetime of doing, changes in 5 days.
I said "I'm working on that" and that "I made vast improvements". I didn't say "I changed". I still have a long way to go.
Mind,
3 questions.
1. Does Either family know about your past with the prostitutes?
2. How have you changed, and can you please list specific behaviors or actions that you have changed?
NOT things that you "won't do again" but that you have already stopped doing AND OR changed.
And
3. how have your attitudes or opinions changed? Have they?
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