1st post. Long but please read, help!

[25yearsmlc]

Zeus,
It sounds to me like your wife is in an affair.


Wow....Even if this^^^ were true (& as a woman I found NOTHING she said like what a woman in an affair would say),

for you to just blurt that out is inappropriate. And imo, inaccurate.

You projected your fears onto a new person here. A man still reeling from a blow to his heart and ego,

and you HAD to poison his desire for personal growth and healing with YOUR OWN suspicions, and plant more self doubt in him than he already has?

This happens way too much around here. Please Be more cautious with your statements. "Sounds like your wife is.." ...

The things she is saying and the speed with which she is moving you out all indicate it to me.


Really? Have you read the DB books that form the basis for this site? B/c Your statement is NOT in alignment with DB practices.

Don't bury your head in the sand. Look for evidence of what is really going on here. If you want a fighting chance, you must know what it is that you are up against.

-HS

Snooping is NOT advocated on this site. I don't know why some folks insist on pushing their agendas here, but there ARE other sites that do advocate snooping, and hiring PIs and testing their spouses and confronting and shaming, etc.

But not this one. (This site also has a higher than average success rate.)

I think you people should either follow this approach or go to another site- but don't remake this one into yours.