Nova, this will probably seem like a pretty stupid question but why don't you just ask your wife how she feels about the job?

The worst thing she can say is "Take the job our marriage is over." If she does this you aren't any worse off than you are now.

But she might shrug and say, "I don't care. It's your life.

I think "Take the job our marriage is over" is an entirely different statement then "I don't care. It's your life."

Once sentence has a lot of power and conviction behind it. The other is pretty wishy-washy.

I don't know. What do the vets think?