Ok I followed the advice in what to say when "dates" are brought up. Like what?
So now we saw a commercial for a restaurant and her comment was oh that place is great I ate there last week we should go together. In these case I just don't say anything...I don't see anything wrong with going to a restaurant she enjoys. I must be missing something. Why would you have ANY problem with a commercial or her comment? I am confused.
Do you ASSUME she ate there with OM? Is that it? So, then you assume that she also decided to comment on that, to YOU? Really?
Things are well this morning... It's kind I like a 1950's sitcom. We are in a hotel in separate beds.
So they ARE or are NOT "Well"? ^^^ What' are you saying?
She never changes etc in front of me, but she has no problem if I am in boxers and a shirt. She likes when I don't have a shirt on and commented on it last night.
It's like we are married in every way except for physical contact.
I'm sure that is difficult but hey, it's temporary. It really is.
You guys either work this out and restore/recreate your marriage so that it's truly close, or it ends --in TIME.
But for now this is how it is.
As hard as it is, don't forget there are many of us who have been there or even those of us who were military---we've been apart for months to over a year at a time - and more than once.
It will pass, one way or the other. You are Not powerless.
I have heard if WW's that don't want to be anywhere near their BS. In my case I am just trying to figure out what to do next. What does "don't want to be near Their BS" mean? and what is there to figure out if things are going smoothly right now?
We talks about things to do together all the way to next summer.
We have intimate conversations about the children etc. It's all good stuff...
Indeed it is "ALL GOOD STUFF" ^^^^ The but is that I just can't break the hold of the OM.
it was all good stuff UNTIL YOU brought up "the hold of the OM".
Do you mean the hold HE has on YOU? OR what? I"m lost b/c you say all these signs of progress and you and your w are getting along but you keep on going back to OM.
why? B/C your w is not ready to be intimate with you?
That MAY HAVE NOTHING to do with him.
Do you get that? He was never the "Cause" of your problems, so even his absence won't fix things. That part is up to YOU and your w. How are your GAL and 180s going?
What are they now?
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