Wife still in MLC but has now left #2

[AJM]

Oddly Matt, this is a great life skill. One which you already possessed for many years. How to be at peace with yourself during times of difficulty.

Remember that it is not easy to wean the parent from the child. I know she's 14, but she's growing up faster than the older daughter. And believe me, both daughters talk to each other. They both know what their mom is all about. You can put that one to rest. They are already formulating plans on how NOT to be like their mother etc. I hope for them that's the case.

As for you, I suspect it's really the adjustment of your daughter growing up and being away from you. I know she hasn't been gone from you that long before and that you are a very protective father (and rightfully so). You're a bit raw right now. While that's expected, you have already noticed that knowing something and "knowing" something can be different.

Give yourself some slack. Let the Cra-Cra one go. Don't try to rationalize it or help or any of that. Focus on you and your job and your daughters. You'll need to do things differently, but that's actually a good thing, Matt. Doing things differently teaches the brain to work better. And it helps to bring you out of doldrums.

Your ex took a ride on the crazy train. Everyone knows it. There is not much sense in getting angry about it. Might be better to see the bright side - hey! No more crazy and you can instead be happier than you ever thought you could with a partner that is a true partner.

I get the anger, but I also get the joy, Matt. It just takes time to get from one to the other and along the way it's a little "rough" on some days.

Enjoy the week and understand that being betrayed comes in many forms. But there is nothing other than your ego that needs to be fixed in this case. The rest is just something to line up and shoot down. And you'll do it better than many, Matt.

AJ