Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[HopeTex]

Thanks Old Dog. Feeling better today. Just glad that even though I had some really bad thoughts last nite, I was able to control my behavior. I didn't do anything stupid to ruin the DB progress I have made. I felt the wave of bad feel he and politely and nonchalantly removed myself from the situation.

I think W would prefer that I like hanging out more with her parents and family members. I am struggling with that, they are all nice people but in my humble opinion we spend too much time with them, and for me it just gets very old and repetitive. They are very nice but not particularly interesting, so I get really bored and stir crazy seeng them so much and having the same mundane conversations over and over. I am trying to manage this better. Instead of getting restless and sulky about it, which my wife picks up on, I have just started limiting my time with them a bit, by finding other things to do when I am not in the mood to hang out with them. For example, if I am not up to going over to their house for Sunday dinner (after we have already seen them at kids sports Saturday morning and church Sunday morning and lunch after church...) I will instead take one if our kids on a "daddy date." W doesn't seem to mind this too much. Wish I could magically do a 180 and love spending every spare moment with them, but don't think that is possible. So instead I just set this new boundary and do what makes me happy here.

I think I have a hard time making these type of decisions about what I want and what makes me happy. I always over analyze it and basically do whatever I think I am "supposed" to do, and what will make W happy, even if it ends up making me grumpy and unhappy, which isn't attractive to W in the end.