Good morning everyone, Thanks everyone, for waking me up a bit. Great post Heather, really helped put things in their place. You are all right, of course. But to know something intellectually is different than being able to put it into practice. It doesn't help that she left when I needed her income more than I ever have in the last 20 years. I'm not used to having to worry so very much about being able to make money. I joined the start up because I know that I can be so very successful given time and it would have allowed my W and I to have the money and time, in a few years, to do so many of the things we have always wanted. But as with any new business, it will take time to get there. Add that I haven't been at my best since my W started down this destructive path (it was only 3 months past when I started this new job when I got bombed) and that just added to the amount of time it will take. Her crap almost destroyed any chance that this business will ever work because I wasn't able to give it my all.
Funny my D19 used the exact same term as you to describe her mom, Heather. She said her mom is CRA-CRA. Heck, even her own friends think she is acting crazy! There are just so many things that I've had to do from the IRS audit which is just beginning, to having to deal with my W going back on everything she promised now that she has filed her decree. This is in addition to all the other things that just don't wait because my W has filed and I must deal with that.
I also think the fact that I haven't seen my D14 for almost 12 days since she stayed with her grandmother for a few days last time it was my turn to have her is bothering me as well. I haven't been away from her for longer than 2 weeks her whole life and to leave her where I know she is with a person I don't trust (even though it's her own mother) I think is really getting to me more than I realized.
You are right Heather, It's a brand new day, and I need to just get ready to see my D14 and make the most of what time is left before she must go to school. She only has a very few weeks and I want to do something fun with her.
Thank you everyone. I know I've been a bit maudlin the past few days and I appreciate the support to help get me through! I need to keep my eyes on the prize and make the most of this time. I will get through this and I will make sure my kids know that what my W has done by throwing away a family isn't what is right or normal. That the right thing is to work to keep the family together, to appreciate that family is important and not something you just throw away and pretend never happened. Time to put this down period behind me and start moving forward.
