barely holding on - 2

[u-turn]

Positive DB things that happened in that exchange?
-I didn't tell her that I didn't believe her about the A being over
-I didn't bring up past evidence (prior snooping - which I have stopped and that has saved me so much grief)
-I didn't try to stretch the conversation as I usually do
-I acknowledged that I have a hard time not discussing our problems
-I listened to her without interrupting. Kept my responses short.

negative?
-blank stares probably are not very productive - not validating
-I did tell her that I wanted to work on us only after the affair was over (don't talk about the A)
-(forgot to mention this - this could be bad, in this exchange I told her that I cared for her and still have love for her but I don't need her. I don't depend on her to give me happiness (I KNOW STFU))