You can not talk your way out of this. You can not talk this into a reconciliation. You cannot talk your way out of D. You cannot fix this by talking about the MR. So until you get TALKING out of your head, you will not make progress. You will continue to backside until you back right out the door!
So if you can't talk, what can you do? If you can't control her, who can you control?
You have to enter into a different mode of operation until the A ends and she is ready to make the M work. And when she is ready.....then you can talk (maybe).
This is the hardest part for the LBH to get in his head!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
