Welcome aboard. Of course you should hold on to hope! Many marriages survive an EA. It is serious and difficult, but very possible.

The manner in which you respond is crucial and therefore you need to get as much information ASAP!

I am having to use my phone to post ( and not very well I'm afraid), so tomorrow I hope to write you more.

Can you give us a little more history about your M?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!