Stimulus-Response: The Experiment Continues

[GoatGal]

Shining,

I love that too!

I think you put it very well.

I got another earful last night at 2 AM.
I didn't even bring it up, just laughed at the snippy text I got from GUBU when I said we were going to be out tearing it up at Karoake, doing "Rock and Roll High School" from the Ramones.

H: "Really."
"Well."
"I'm glad I made it so you could have so much fun."
"Good night."
(Sure sounded huffy to me. Guess he's not having any fun or something!)


Anyhow, I wasn't upset, just saying exactly that ^^^ and chuckling.
(I guess merely mentioning him is enough to prove I'm hopelessly "stuck"!
And I only mention him in ways like this. Eye-rolling, "Mr. GUBU strikes again, sort of thing, maybe twice a day if he texts or something.)

Honestly, my one friend wouldn't drop it late last night until I finally broke down in tears.
I finally made it stop by saying:

"What I need from you as my friend is ACCEPT that I am an adult and I am capable of making decisions about what is best for ME."

" You just have to trust that I know what I'm doing and give up on trying to fix it for me. You can't and I can't. And walking away from my life at this point would add MORE stress, not reduce it."

"I know you care about me and it's hard to see me in pain, it means a lot that you are trying to help. But the best way to help me is to support me and allow me to work through this in the way that's best for me."

Cue tears.
Cue group hug.

Please no more of this today...

A little too much "togetherness" for me at this point.

------------GGG