Possible MLC WAH, and need guidance

[AJM]

which I know is a lie, because I've read about it all over these boards

Not to give you any difficult things to think about per se, but all you really know is what happens with others. You need to be prepared for that eventuality, but you don't "know" that about your husband.

Step back and see what you do know.

For example, you do know that he wants you in his life. He wants to be close. He wants to foster a relationship with you.

The question is really what you want and what he wants. The rest are just things that happen along the way.

Don't compromise yourself, but don't think you "know" until you do know.

That's kind of a child-like approach to this. Kids don't know and learn along the way. They take it as it comes because its all new to them.

Its all new to you as well, no?

You are doing a great job, Ats. Really. It's a difficult situation and you are really doing it well. Be careful to not superimpose others stories on to yours, but be prepared for whatever comes. And detach from the outcome.

From that stance, you'll do very well.

AJ