WAW not admitting to affair #3

[shodan]

Nettles, yes, she absolutely can do that. Right now, she invited to come and is planning to come for part of it. Her desire to be with us does seem genuine. However I struggle with boundaries. If she comes with us, is that cake eating? She gets to play the dutiful W/mom and then go to NYC for two nights (again, I know she has meetings there but that also is where her OM is).

Starsky...here is the issue, the money she spent technically is her money. our living expenses are relatively low and we make good money (but individually and collectively). we save a ton of money each year so she can argue that this money comes from there. Setting a limit to what she can spend on her own will seem somewhat arbitrary.

I need to think about this one...