Do you really want to spend the rest of your life pursuing your husband, and trying to convince him to be attracted to you?
Think about that for a moment.
You are basically saying here (and have said before), that if you don't pursue him, he'll grow even more distant. A marriage, to me, involves BOTH spouses working at being as attractive as possible, and even occasionally pursuing. Granted, DBing involves just the one spouse -- at least initially -- doing the heavy lifting, but at some point your husband needs to pick up the rope here.
