I think many long term DB'ers error on the side of not reaching out enough, basing this decision on the belief that their spouse will "miss them" and reach out first.
Hmmmm depends on the Mlcer - my xh used to respond to any reaching out by initial friendliness then a big emotional punch in the gut. A sort of 'come closer and then I can hit you again'
FY your wife is a 'nice' MLCer, some of them become vicious. no other way of describing their behaviour.
Yeah, I would reach out and he would blow sand at me. Nothing at which you could say that's nasty or disrespectful but mentioning he was away in ow town!
He was sick but no mention of how he got taken to hospital and how he got home if critically ill! Telling me he deliberately ignores my call as its unimportant! Etc!
Just enough to play mind games, so I don't each out I don't contact, he lives 3km away. Traveling 2.5 hours to ow is easy fun and worth it.
I don't play mind games, anymore. Simple
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
