BTW, you never mentioned that you were talking to an OW. If you were and had been open about it here on the boards, we would have warned against it which would have prevented this latest blowup.

Also, after your A's, did you give your W FULL transparency in that she was allowed to check your email and phone any time she wished? If not, then you don't understand what her insecurities were. The fact that you are "shocked" by this shows again that you are unwilling to address her pain of the past. That is the key to your situation. If you continue to argue here about what the point is of doing that (because it's hurtful TO YOU - selfish reasons), then we can't help you any further.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER