Wife moved out need help!!!

[25yearsmlc]

Took two of our four kids to the park today with W. When we were about to leave she said that she was going to re-watch a TV series that she liked. I said oh then I will stay at home and you can have fun with the kids. She then wanted to know why I was staying home.

Seemed to me she wanted some alone time. Do you see something else in her request?

Or were you simply offering her an alternative to what she just said she intended to do?

I told her that she could have some time with the kids and if she was going to watch a TV then we could not ralk. She said oh and left her headphones at home. She has seemed a little depressed and irritable.

Is it possible she felt controlled by you here? Seems as if You basically told her she was not "allowed" to watch her shows, b/c "then you could not talk".

Had she asked to talk to you?


I think she is starting to see what she has done to her family.

In general, you mean?


The kids also did not want to go to the pool with her and that also made her a little sad. One of the things she said that she wanted to do is do the things she wanted to do with the kids.

^^^which are what?

And have you backed off enough to let her take the lead and initiate with them? And how is she doing with a counselor?

What she never really understand is the kids didn't want to do the things she wanted to do. She has yet to come up with a new activity for them to do.

Can you privately help her with the kids activities? OR ask the kids for their ideas.

So you know, I DO see a lot of positives in your recent interactions. Some of what you are doing IS working.