you are right, I am just feeling sorry for myself. I just don't want to lose my family.
I promise I will read your entire thread but I saw your comment about wanting to force your wife to agree to things she clearly will NOT agree to now.
Don't corner her when it's a no win situation. You won't like the choice you force upon her and even if she somehow "woke up" b/c you forced her to, you'll be right back here soon.
SHE has to make these choices and you cannot force her to. You are trying very hard to control things & people you have no control over.
Instead, figure out why she prefers OM (and that's assuming you are 100% correct in your A assumptions) and stop talking about him AT ALL. Be the better choice. Become a man only a fool would leave.
Stop snooping and the stinking thinking has to be halted or you'll go nuts.
The more you challenge her choices, the more you force her to defend them. That just cements those in her mind and heart.
Back off.
GAL and I mean that with all my heart. GAL is mandatory to detach and detachment is needed for your own health.
Your kids are watching you and someday they will face a setback or betrayal.
Show them how a man of strength and honor handles a blow to his heart and ego.
Show them that although your pain is deep, it's NOT fatal and it's NOT eternal.
you will be happy again b/c you are responsible for your own happiness, just as they will be responsible for theirs.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
