onguard, thanks for the pep talk. My mood definitely sways with the winds. Some hours I am good, and then in others I am sad. I am trying to detach and just have fun. i read through your thread and agree that we have very similar sitchs. I know that I need to back off, which I do from time to time. but not all of the time. I just need to do it more and show her that I am moving forward.

Right now, she has no remorse and won't even admit to the A.

I struggle with finding friends with whom I can share this issue. If I tell them about the D and the A, I feel like they will judge my W and then she will find out and we will never get back together. But, I need people with whom I can share my feelings. The other issue I am having with GALing is everyone I know is married. All of my friends are married. So to ask them to get some beers on a Friday night will seem odd unless I share with them my switch. But I am not sure I want to do that at this time.


Me: 40, W: 40
M: 15, T: 18
D - 10, S - 7
D announcement 6/7/2014
A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W)
Still living together and sharing same bed