Maybell VI

[KGirl]

"It worried me that he might be trying dating (he travels so much) but I think I read in someone else's thread that if you are willing to reconcile after separation that you have to be ok with not knowing what happened during that time.

Is that right?"

I'm curious about this too. My feeling at this point in time is that it's moreso you have to be ok with WHAT happened during that time (rather than having to be OK with not knowing). I feel like if one party has questions about what the other has done(I mean, there are some safety things too, right? Wouldn't you want to know if they had slept with someone and therefore if you wanted them to take an STD test, for example?) and the other party refuses to answer them because "it's while we were separated, it doesn't matter," then there's an issue there surrounding being secretive, which seems hard to rebuild trust from. I'm thinking it really depends on the couple and if they are both content with the same approach ("don't ask don't tell" vs. full disclosure). But I am curious what the "experts" think I think labug posted something once about how they did talk about things that happened during the separation and she knew her H didn't date anyone so that must have come up in conversation at some point..?