Have I any hope.... (Part 3)

[Mat]

I read this on Old Dog's thread by 25 and wonder have I being doing it all wrong:
'If you are a person who neglected your spouse and chidden so YOU could work at the job you love, then yet more neglect and more "Not pursuing" is NOT the best course for you, right? In that scenario, pursuing is probably THE PATH to her heart...'

Not a vet, but just to be careful about jumping into any pursuit. I spent tons of time looking for hints that going dark wouldn't work, that I should call her, because that's all I wanted to do, all day and every day. But our situations are not the same. OD is still living with his wife and children, I think, though he works out of town. So for him to demonstrate more caring is not the same as it would be for you to pursue your W in another city.

This is not to tell you what to do or not do, I don't know. Just be careful. Go chase us vets if you need to, or scrape the money together for one coaching session if you can at all. See my thread on that.