" I think I always put her first. To me she was #1."
Here's the difference.....,she has to feel she is top billing. If she does not feel you make bed #1, then you can argue all dAy about it, but it won't change how she feels less th?/-an first place.
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It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!