Believe me Mr. Bond. My wife is VERY specific. You would hate to be cross-examined by her. Her attention to detail could drive you insane.

There were two things she complained about:

(1) She wanted me to stand up for her.
(2) She wanted me to make her #1 in our marriage.

She says I allowed her to "merge into my current family" but I never gave her "top billing."

I absolutely don't think this is true. I think I always put her first. To me she was #1.

At least this is how I felt in my mind. She may disagree with me but it doesn't negate my feelings toward her.

I will agree I didn't "stand up for her" the way she wanted.

Let me be clear. My wife is not timid! She didn't need me to defend her.

When she says "stand up for her" her definition is that I should never publically disagree with her.

She says married couples should always present a unified front 100% of the time to the outside world. She says if I have a disagreement with her to "take it inside the cone of silence of our home."

Here is an example of where she doesn't feel I stood up for her:

She says the final straw happened when some members of my family unfriended her on FB this May. She was really surprised. So was I.

She hasn't had contact with any members of my family since April 2013. The last time she saw my family it was really positive. Truthfully, my wife had a great relationship with all my relatives until I left her the first time in June 2013.

Honestly, the only problem they had with her is that I was unhappy.

She doesn't post anything but funny stuff on her FB page. So when she was unfriended she was really hurt. She said unfriending her was an "unprovoked act of hostility."

She wanted me to do something. I didn't know what to do. She badgered me to unfriend everyone who unfriended her. So I did. But that didn't make her happy.

She wanted me to ask them why they had unfriended her. She said this was an example of our marriage. How "they were more important" how they were "number one."

She said if she was "#1" I would be outraged over their actions. She said they were sending a message that it didn't matter whether we were reconciling...they wanted her out of the family.

Come on! It was FB. Mountains out of molehills. Let it go.

And then...BAM!

"See Bob--this is what I'm talking about. I spent an entire year ignoring the petty slights from your family. And in response they escalated their behavior. Instead of taking the reigns and saying, 'Knock it off. This is my wife.' You told me to, 'ignore it and get along with them. When it comes to whose feelings get protected it is never mine. They are #1 not me.'

I'm certainly not going to destroy my relationship with my family to prove my love for my wife. I think my wife is being emotionally destructive and manipulative.

I unfriended the bad actors on FB. I asked my sister what she knew about the unfriending (one of the bad actors was her 20-year old daughter). My sister didn't know anything about it.

Enough. This is childish. I am not going into my family like a wrecking ball over FB. My wife has to learn when to let things go.