WAW not admitting to affair #3

[shodan]

Well, i did finally figure out how much she tallied on her credit card (she got her own CC that must go to her work about two months ago). I found it in her wallet after I did not see a big charge come through on our shared card. The check cleared to pay the bill....$5K+. so yes, my wife is funding her affair with our/my money. Lovely. I am a bit pi%%ed to say the least.

my anger is definitely growing b/c she is destroying our family. Her mom is beside herself and so sad (she knows about the BD and the A b/c I told her). She keeps saying that she has lost her daughter.

I need to keep this anger growing but still stay "loving", which seems somewhat illogical.