25yearsmlc is right. I jumped to a conclusion based on a bias formed by my situation. It was not only unfair but emotionally dangerous for Joe.
labug I apologize.
Joe--Listen to the experts.
I don't take many things personally. I appreciate the apology. 25 pretty much covered everything.
Bob, we do see things through out own personal lens, dragging our baggage behind us. That's great insight on your part. What can you do with that?
I want people to reconcile their marriages if they can have a healthy marriage that allows their children to feel safe and protected and loved.
An "intact" marriage is not necessarily a healthy marriage.
It's all about perspective.
I want to highlight this: IF Joe's wife really is as physically abusive as he said and if this is typical at all for her, heck yes that would need some intervention.
((Imagine if Joe were "Josephine" and his wife were the husband, breaking down a door to get to her...
and just so you know, we've seen assaults on this board, and at least 2 suicides...so we take violent behavior seriously, but we also take mood swings and distorted perspectives seriously too.)))
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
