cq, that's not what I meant by transparency. I meant did she change her cellphone # and email address, is she keeping her cellphone unlocked, sharing her passwords and whereabouts with you, etc. It's an imperative underpinning of any successful reconciliation plan; it's especially important here since she never sent OM a no-contact letter that you were able to see. Do you know for sure she called OM and OM's wife and conveyed her no-contact wishes? Have you talked to OM's wife?
