Thanks guys. Bob, I know your intentions were good. As rough a go as this has been, the vets have been awesome. They kick my butt when needed.
25yearsmlc, I actually did take labug's comments pretty much as you believe she intended. I've been doing my best to self-reflect and have seen that, when my wife goes crazy on me, she usually has a pretty good reason. I also think back to comments made by Mach1 back in my first thread.
He said that her anger is necessary. She has to unload for not only my recent infractions, but also all the times in the past when she swept her frustrations under the rug instead of continuing to fight.
Her angriest times have been when I have done the stupidest things and/or not owned my actions. When I try to excuse myself or justify my actions, it sets her off.
I also am not just saying I'm ok w/ her anger. When/if we get to the point of piecing, it will be something a request I make of her. I'm not in the position to make requests right now. My focus now is on doing the right things, and when I do make a mistake, to face it like a man.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
