Wonder what was the deciding factor for her- Did you ask?
It is vital you get into therapy soon. You may have have to try a couple before getting the right one.
Piecing is very challenging. Your feelings are normal. I believe the LBH is so focused on getting WAW back that once it happens, his emotions have a hard time matching what he thinks he should be feeling. You have experienced a lot of pain and shock. It takes time to heal. You will have doubts abd questions. Your moods may swing just as hers will do. Neither of you will be able to bounce back as if nothing has happened. " I hope she is being honest. If she doesn't know about the addictive pull,she will not understand why she is wanting to see him again. She could mistake those feelings to mean love.
She has her own stuff to work through. And, she may be wondering why her feelings have not returned.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
