Mindsink - Part 2

[MrBond]

"But the key factor here is timing. I had an addiction to escorts/massage parlors, which I ended three years ago."

This is a point that you seem to refuse to acknowledge. It DOESN'T MATTER that it ended just three years ago. I can tell you as a victim of an A and ask anyone else here for that matter, that the effects of an A are felt for MANY years after.

You just want to keep sweeping that fact under the rug. It doesn't matter why you had them. The fact of the matter is that you betrayed her trust multiple times. PERIOD.

No one is bringing up that fact to rub it in your face as you keep suggesting. The posters are bringing it up because that is an important action that deep down affects your W and needs to be addressed by you by re-establishing that lost trust slowly. Because you adamantly refuse to acknowledge or want to sweep your A's under the rug because YOU find them painful, you don't acknowledge that pain. You still talk about yourself and YOUR pain when your W is the one who has been hurting for years.