25, I've learned that my "fixes" are not always welcome. I'd thought in the past by trying to fix a problem for my W that I was showing her I cared. She usually just wanted me to listen and comfort her, something I was horrible at most of the time.

Live and learn. It does feel odd when we get together now and she tells me about a problem she's having and to not try to fix it or offer suggestions. It does seem though that by just listening, validating and trying to be understanding that it things between us have gone MUCH better than they would have in the past.

Thanks again for your post! Very insightful smile


Me-40,W-37
D7, D5, S3
Separated Oct 3/2013
T 11 YRS
M 7 YRS